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SELF-WORTH | LIVE YOUR LIFE BUT ALSO HAVE SELF-WORTH | PART- 1

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self esteem or respect confidence and pride psychology

Our Topic Today is “Self-Worth “. It also plays a Vital Role in making our Faith Strong by the help of Patience. 

With Faith Comes Patience


So, Be Thankful when people gossip, backbite or spread rumours about you. You have something they want. Know that the Almighty will deal with their misdeeds And you`ll benefit from all their good deeds while your sins are given to them.

Some People will always look for Excuses to Twist the Truth. No Matter how you correct them, they just won`t listen; so keep your distance

When you broadcast every aspect of your life on social media, then expect the problems that come with it. Be discerning with what you share.


Do something daily to improve your relationship with the Almighty. No matter how small the act, Just do it. You`ll feel the difference.We often Moan and Groan over petty matters while others face Huge challenges and Life-changing situations. Get a Grip on your Life. Give Thanks

Be wary of your Desires. Don`t let it get out of control. Remind yourself of what you want in the end. Paradise is worth all the Sacrifice.


We all have Negative thoughts sometimes. It shows we`re Human. But when your outlook is Positive, you don`t let such thoughts control you.


Keep Things minimal, Learn to declutter your life as you go along. You won`t be taking all this stuff with you. Live simply. Sleep soundly.You can`t run away from social media but you need to strike a balance. Your self worth is not determined by Likes. Don`t be fooled by it.

Some need to live their Lives in the Spotlight, shouting about whatever they do. Be among those who shine from within, away from the Glare.

Be mindful of Manipulators. They Lie through everything, making it seem like it`s your fault. Stay away from them; they`ll only Hurt you.

Remember it`s your character that makes you worth it; not your Appearance. After all, if a rise didn`t smell as good, it would be worthless.If you worry about what others Think and say about you, Stop! Start Focusing on your Main Aim in Life. Please the Almighty and all will Fall into Place.

Be wary of double standards. Some people expect you to Tolerate Everything they do but they`d kick up a Fuss if you did the same to them.

Review your Life, Refocus and check that you`re on Track. Let go of Distractions.
Pray that the Almighty Guides you Every step of the way.


It`s okay to disagree but never get malicious or vicious. Disagreements can strengthen bonds between people if both sides are Sincere.


Don1t take what others say about you Seriously. The same goes for what you see in the mirror. Your truest Reflection is in your Heart.


Don`t use “Don`t Judge Me “as an easy way out and dress however you want to. Know your Limits. Modesty is a Sign of Respect; it`s not of Weakness.

Learn to disregard what others say. People will talk. Then they`ll forget. But the Almighty is the Only One who will remember everything.

So, in this First Part we have few things regarding Self Worth, We have to see what we want and what we do.


Whatever we do it matters , Be true to yourself and Sincere to yourself and Almighty will handle Rest.


In Next Part we will discuss few more points about it and try to learn from these things that we are Humans .

SELF-WORTH | LIVE YOUR LIFE BUT ALSO HAVE SELF-WORTH | PART-  2 | ZEE GLOBAL VISION |

Acceptable Influence Vs Toxic Manipulation Part – 3

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Good day Readers, In Part 3 of this Chapter We will be Discussing :

” Not All Intentions Are Malicious “ 

So, With all of these said, it is also Important to Remember that people sometimes utilize subtle and minor forms of manipulation, which are not malicious in nature, as a way to present the best of themselves to someone new. It is something that is Pretty Universal Across the young Dating World.

People going on their First Dates are always Pretty mindful of themselves and the person they are presenting, either because they are afraid to show their True selves just yet, or they want to make sure they don`t do something silly out of nervousness.

Different Personalities deal with this kind of Anxiety in Different ways, so don`t completely discount a Person for fumbling over a few words or talking about something that is not openly discussed on their profile in the case of an online to in-person interaction.

It is best not to live in complete Fear of every single person you meet in Person and Online as if they are a Potential Threat to your Physical and Mental Well-Being. While this book is all about Manipulation and Protecting Yourself from it, it is also very Important to Realize that Living Life itself is Always going to involve Risk, and sometimes it is necessary to Accept Risks for the sake of what you might Gain or the Fact that you Gain Fulfillment and Satisfaction on a very Personal Level from whatever Activity or Endeavor you are thinking of Embarking on.

There is no way to safeguard yourself against danger in every aspect of your Life Completely. If you tried to do this, you would probably end up locking yourself in a room and never venturing to experience anything else in your life.

This is no way to live, so try to maintain a Mental Balance between Being Careful in your Day-to-Day Interactions and Activities while also being Brave enough to live your Life.

Well We have Discussed a lot in this chapter . The Next Chapter we will be Talking about will be:

” Manipulative Family Members”

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Acceptable Influence Vs Toxic Manipulation Part – 2 

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Good Day Readers, Today we will continue to Part 2 of the Topic “Acceptable Influence vs Toxic Manipulation“.

So, As we have seen that the answers are different for each of us. Its is for us to take into account the circumstances surrounding the situation.

Play the role of the detective in order to help you dicern whether a situation is reasonably safe or if there is some risk involved. Look for the signs that someone is not completely honest with you during an interaction. We`ve discussed some of the things you may want to watch out for during an Interaction with a stranger, which may give you some clues as to whether the person is genuine or not.

In addition to this, remember to take a step back and be aware of your environment at all times. Are you in a place where it might be easy for someone to catch you off guard? Next time you have to go somewhere for whatever reason at night, consider taking along a friend to ensure safety in numbers.

Never offer your Trust willingly when you are in a situation that feels unsafe or not completely comfortable. Listen to your gut in situations like these where it could be up in the air as to what a stranger`s intentions are for talking to you.

This mindfulness about your surroundings and the circumstances of interaction should extend to online interactions as well. Never give out personal information to someone you`ve never met in person. Do not Trust that everyone you talk to online is exactly who they say they are. A lot of people make use of dating sites and have successfully found partners online, which is a wonderful thing.

However, it might be wise to stick to those most reputable sites if you decide you want to try this route for whatever reason. Signing and Participating in a site that charges a Monthly fee or another kind of Financial commitment helps them weed out and avoid those people who are just trying to get in somewhere to meet someone and manipulate them off and cuff.

Those who take their time with a profile and are willing to pay a fee for the services offered on the dating site are more likely to be genuinely invested in the endeavor.

Also, never agree to meet someone in person for the first time at a private residence or otherwise non-public place. Always assume the worst when it comes to such interactions until you have had a chance to see otherwise.

Make sure that you are meeting at Public Places, and consider taking along a friend if you are feeling especially nervous about meeting around someone for the first time. As an additional test, make sure to pay attention to the information exchanged online, though it shouldn`t be personal information at this stage.

Remember the likes and dislikes and the more mundane things included in the profile so that you can quiz the individual in subtle ways when you meet in person. If the person you are meeting seems to be familiar with the subject matter and recognizes immediately when you mention something from their profile, this is a good sign that they are being Real with you. If you mention these things, but the person seems to struggle to maintain composure and make things up to fill in the gaps, then this could be a Red Flag that the information shared on his Profile or made up Entirely.

You can never be too careful in this arena, so do what you can to stay aware. Make sure you can Trust the person through in-person Interaction.

So, Now in this Topic we have discussed things that can be part of it, but in Next Topic we will see

 ” Not All Intentions Are Malicious” 

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Acceptable Influence Vs Toxic Manipulation Part – 1

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We`ve covered quite a bit of ground regarding the Manifestations of Dark Psychology in Society and How some of these Tactics are considered to be among the malicious and psychologically damaging forms of abuse in existence. However, it is Important to Remember, as specified in our first chapters, that the use of Dark Psychology is spread over a wide spectrum of behaviors and intentions, not all of which are insidious and with the intention of inflicting harm or exploiting other people`s vulnerabilities to an unethical level.

The point at which this line can be drawn might differ from person to person, but in the chapter, we will discuss how to discern between an Abusive Manipulator and someone who is employing a low level of Manipulation with much less malicious intentions.

There is no Perfect Formula for deciphering what a person`s intentions are or whether he is knowingly employing Tactics of Dark Psychology. It is up to you to make decisions regarding how you will proceed with interaction when something feels amiss, and it is important that you follow your gut instincts when it comes to these types of feelings.

Often, the subconscious mind knows things that it cannot communicate directly to the conscious mind. So, if you feel red flags are going up, and your nerves are standing on end, even if you`re not sure why it is probably a good idea to remove yourself from the interaction or take steps to make sure things do not progress.

Tolerable Manipulation and Influence

Low-level Manipulation Tactics are those strategies that are involved in things like Sales pitches and Political Speeches. These Forms of Persuasion are employed using certain Information about the Human Psyche but are not intended to directly hurt the person or explicitly misguide them.

Even in the Realm of Politics, where the lines between ethical use and Unethical use of persuasion Tactics can be Blurry, the facts can be sorted from the non-facts, and people are left to their own devices when it comes to the ultimate decision of whether to vote for a particular Individual or Not.

However, the use of such tactics like disseminating hateful Ads or Intentionally divisive ads throughout Social Media is one Tactic that has come under Fire in recent days. Though you are not directly forcing a person to make a Personal Decision with these Tactics, you are substantially altering the psychological environment that will ultimately make the decision under the stress of having been influenced in a visually staggering way.

Again, the line here can be Blurry, as typical political ads often try to trigger those emotional responses that we talked about during our discussion on the three modes of persuasion.

Additionally, everyone is probably going to have a different opinion about where that line actually is. Should we not allow Social Media to throw targeted ads at us based on our data? Should we Report someone in a store who is trying to get us to feel bad about not donating to such and such case?

The best we can do as individuals is to safeguard ourselves being in control of the type of situations we put ourselves into and being always aware of the possibilities. Just like in our example with a salesman in a store, when a customer voluntarily walks in there, she knows that, at some point, she is probably going to be approached by someone trying to sell her something.

She walks into the store even though she knows this and makes the decision that she is willing to Tolerate this Interaction for the sake of picking up whatever she needs. When you listen to a news show or a pair of talking heads in a debate, you know that each of them is going to try to throw arguments and facts at you in an effort to convince you of their way of seeing things, but it is upto you to actually Research and make sure that what these people are saying is Accurate and to make judgements and decisions for yourself.

Protecting yourself means being aware of the possibilities while not outright turning yourself into a totally cynical person who never trusts anyone in any capacity. There may be an honest, young gentleman who crosses your Path Today needing help with a Flat Tire. The Decision is yours as to what you will do following this event.

Do you let your Guard a little to Help the Man?

Or Do you Refuse based on the Fear of the Unknown?

Well, the answers are different for each of us. It is For us to take into account the circumstances surrounding the Situation.

So, For Today we will take a Break at this Point and we will continue to discuss more about this Topic in our Next Part

” Acceptable Influence Vs Toxic Manipulation Part – 2 | Dark Psychology “

MANIPULATIVE PARTNERS | PART 3

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Manipulative Partners

Attachment and the Fear of Loss

Another type of Manipulation in Romantic Relationships is one that Preys on a Person`s Fear of Loss and Sense of Attachment or Addiction to the Manipulator. This can be one of the most effective when it comes to Long-Term Manipulation because of the strength of the Target`s Fear and Aversion to loss or doing anything to Jeopardize Losing Possession.

Many People don`t think of themselves as being Addicted to Possessions, but the Truth is that when a person develops a Relationship with another Human Being, part of that presence is a formed attachment that receives reinforcement the longer he/she stays with that Partner.

Love can be gained and Lost overtime, but the attachment and habitual presence of a Partner can be something that is very hard to overcome, and this is what makes the loss of a loved one or partner so difficult to manage, even if there has been an estrangement in Terms of Romantic Love or Affection.

A lot of Success in this Particular Tactic Depends on the Nature and Personality of the Victim. This is why choosing a victim who is Susceptible to being controlled and manipulated in this way is an important first step should the manipulator have the opportunity to choose.

Alternatively, this type of Manipulation might Manifest Later on as changes take place in the Relationship and the More Dominant Partner Decides to take advantage of this Trait in order to maintain control or Gain access to some different type of Reward.

Once this vulnerability is known to the abuser, it is just a matter of time before he can enact control over the target using threats such as Abruptly leaving the victim and arousing the fear of abandonment. The user may threaten to divorce the subject or leave him/her for another partner, or the abuser play around with these kinds of threats by talking about how desirable another person is, how he/she might like to be with that person if they weren`t with the target to doubt more and more her own capability of staying in a relationship and “keeping” a man at her side.

This will build toward the degradation of self-confidence and identity, playing into a whole new level of emotional manipulation as described in the previous sections.

The tactic of pulling away, stringing along behind, then rewarding with a brief return is one way to put Tactic into Hyperdrive. That period of alone time without the Partner can often work to inflame that sense of Fear and Anxiety about the Loss so that when the Partner does Finally throw the Target a Bone, she Responds with desperation and a willingness to go along with anything the partner wants in order to get him back into her Life.

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All three of these Manipulation tactics used within Relationships can be Effective alone or Together as a combination of Tactics. The Decision Regarding the Tactic being used is often dictated by how much the Target begins to show her colors regarding her own emotional vulnerabilities. The abuser who chooses to pay attention to these signals and then exploits those areas of vulnerability is a malicious type of an abuser who has chosen to put his own Emotional needs and desires ahead of that of the partner or target he has chosen.

Sometimes, this switch to an abusive spouse happens down the road, following a traumatic event, and sometimes, this is something the road, following a traumatic event, and sometimes, this is something the abuser will go to Great lengths to hide until he is married and feels secure in his position of Power and Dominance over the Partner.

Other times, the Manipulator has been an abuser his whole Life, being in this particular field and has possibly put a lot of thought and Preparation into his choice of Partner and how he will enact his manipulation Tactics and Control after the Relationship has been established under false pretenses.

Just as a mother of a son who becomes a violent criminal cannot often completely lose the love and attachment for her child, the Partner of an abusive partner may find it incredibly difficult to tear herself away from the situation when she has grown to Truly Love the abuser and has formed a strong bond and sense of attachment to him.

as mentioned before, the additional factors involved, such as children, can work against the victim to keep her locked in a situation. This makes her feel trapped and as though she cannot go to anyone else for help, whether she`s been threatened directly by the abuser or these fears are only in her head.So, we have Discussed quite a bit about Manipulating Partners, in next Chapter we will Discuss:

” Acceptable Influence vs Toxic Manipulation ”