Relationships are hard work. At first, things may seem easy when you’re in the cupcake phase. Love, romance, and a genuine connection seem to flow like water in the beginning, but over time, these things may dwindle to the occasional show of affection. Unhappy couples result from not being mindful of the effort it takes to maintain affection for the long haul.
The easy solution to an unhappy or toxic relationship is to leave it, but many people don’t. This situation is because deep down, they either want to save the relationship or they don’t want to be alone. In many cases, a human’s innate need for companionship is what keeps them in a bad partnership.
Whether you’re reading this to figure out if someone in your life is in an unhealthy relationship or if you’re reading this for yourself, these ten therapist-curated signs can help you identify unhappy couples.
Unhappy couples have passive aggression down to a science. They don’t want to get into a full-out argument, but they want to make a point. They want their significant other to feel that point. In many cases, an annoyed partner may not even be aware of passive aggression.
Passive aggression comes in certain degrees or levels. It can be mild, in which case it’s easy to miss (for a while). However, if it’s a substantial degree, it can lead to full-out arguments anyway, causing even more unhappiness. Things become worse as the passive-aggressive behavior continues without a resolution. It’s common to see discontent couples be aggressive about passive-aggressive behavior.
Remember when it seemed like you were sharing something new all the time with your partner? The thrill of a shared, unique experience kept the relationship alive and exciting. You were probably in love and loving it. The spontaneity of it kept you excited because you never knew what was around the corner.
Unhappy couples can find that those new experiences aren’t happening anymore. One big reason is that they probably aren’t spending as much time together. Some of it is just that the magic hides underneath resentment or depression. Either way, a lack of new experiences is one of the signs of unhappiness.
Daydreaming about the way a partner used to be is a tell-tale sign that someone is unhappy in their current relationship. This wishful thinking means that there is nothing new to dwell on. The connection is stagnant, or worse. The significant other has changed
It’s not uncommon for both partners to reminisce about the way the other person used to be. When one partner changes, the other partner can often mirror the behaviors. They can be unaware that they’ve changed also. It’s worse when the couple decides not to talk about what they’re missing. This miscommunication leads to two miserable people who may have trouble admitting they’re no longer happy.
Unhappy couples may find that their relationship is no longer exciting. Fun dates, secret rendezvous, spontaneous trips, passionate sex, or even unique gifts have been replaced by work, kids, chores, or other boring life activities. Even worse, it may have been replaced by drugs or alcohol.
For couples with a troubled relationship, it can be hard to bring excitement into a relationship they aren’t excited about. The spark just isn’t there anymore. Doing things that once were exciting can now feel like a chore. It’s hard to get back to a relationship that keeps you on your toes once you hit this point, but it’s not impossible. Both parties must be willing to put aside their differences and try.
Going on dates is an essential part of any relationship. It’s a way for couples to connect, build a friendship, and keep the fire burning in a relationship. The date doesn’t have to be some grand event. As long as it involves the couple spending quality time alone with each other, it’s a perfect bonding experience.
When couples aren’t going on dates anymore, you can be sure that one or both parties are unhappy. Dianne Grande, a licensed clinical psychologist, wrote, “when there is strong resistance to planning couples time, I begin to wonder whether both partners are avoiding time alone together. If this is a long-standing pattern, it is worth thinking about whether one or both of you have a fear of emotional intimacy and deal with that fear by always including other friends or family in your free time.”
If date night has disappeared from the relationship, that’s a definite sign that something is wrong and not dealing with that can zap the happiness away fast.
One of the most prominent signs of unhappiness is constant disagreements or arguments. It can be about something as significant as being accused of cheating or something as minor as whose turn it is to do the dishes. When someone is in an unhappy relationship, everything has the potential to get on their nerves.
Many disagreements happen because unhappy couples don’t talk about things like they need to. This discontent could be the source of unhappiness – a lack of communication. When communication breaks down, neither party is expressing what they want or need from the relationship. This outcome can lead to resentment, anger, and disappointment, all of which contribute to unhappiness.
People don’t need to know their partner’s schedule minute for minute, but they should have some general idea of where their partner is during the day. This is because happy couples take an interest in each other’s lives. In fact, happy couples probably text each other about exciting things during their days, which allows them to know where their significant other is.
Then you have the couples who seem to have no clue of their significant other’s whereabouts. Even stranger, they seem to not really care. They might also change the subject away from their significant other. This is a glaring indicator of an unhappy couple.
Sometimes couples can get so used to each other that they feel like they don’t need to work hard to keep each other. That means little things like gentle whispers in the ear, playful touching, and flirting don’t happen anymore. On its own, this could just be a sign of a relationship that needs a refresher but paired with other symptoms. You can bet that the couple is unhappy.
This is especially true if they don’t touch each other at all. The absence of hugs and kisses says a lot. They may even go out of their way to avoid each touching each other. This is a sign of severe relationship problems.
Healthy, happy couples talk about any and everything. They love talking to each other because they’re friends as well as lovers. Conversations can often get intense and intellectual when couples mesh well. It’s almost as if they’re on the same wavelength.
This is why it would be strange if they don’t have meaningful conversations. One-liners and one-word answers indicate tension between the two. There may even be a lack of eye contact when they talk to each other. This means that there are things that need to be said but are being held in. These suppressed feelings and expressions can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
Have you ever tried to talk to someone who is always on their phone? You quickly get the feeling that they aren’t really paying you any attention, mainly because they won’t even look at you. In most cases, that’s what’s happening, exactly.
Couples who are always on their phones when around each other are merely not paying each other any attention. This could be because they’ve lost interest in each other or, as mentioned in the previous reason, they’re avoiding each other. Either way, paying more attention to social media than a significant other is a clear sign of unhappy couples.
No matter how much they may try to hide it, unhappy couples are apparent. Everything can be a giveaway, including their words, actions, and even their glances. Interestingly, couples who are unhappy will stick together and not try to fix what’s making them depressed. Sometimes, they may not also be aware of how miserable they are.
Some couples grow so accustomed to living the way they do that they don’t even recognize the signs no matter how obvious they are. Whether you’re reading this article for a friend or you’re reading it to try and discover if you’re in an unhappy relationship, these ten signs will clue you in on what’s happening.
Good Day Readers, Today we will Discuss Further about “Self-Worth“, which plays a very Important Part in Our Life.
Always Remember that the Decree of the Almighty is far beyond what we can see and understand. Things may not be as they seem. So it`s best not to Overthink and Overanalyze. Leave it to Him.
Failure is not Permanent. You pick yourself up, Have Firm faith and Move on. Trust that the Almighty is planning something better for you. Be Patient.
Satan`s biggest weapon against us is to stir up our desires, create doubt and havoc in our minds that we`re losing out in worldly pleasures.
We`re not Perfect and never will be. There`s no need to put on a variety of masks to show off to the outside world. Hypocrisy is Dangerous.
Not everyone will see eye to eye with you. Some will never understand you. Don`t let others dictate who you are. Stay True to Yourself.
Don`t be Superficial. Don`t be fooled by Good looks and Intellect. Physical beauty is Worthless if you have a disfigured Soul. Look Deeper.
Spend more Time Daily Reflecting on what the Almighty has Blessed you with rather than worrying over what`s missing in your Life! Be Grateful.
Almighty. I`m Grateful that despite seeing all my shortcomings, You still choose to Give me another Chance, Another Day. I won`t Waste it.
We`re Human. We make mistakes. We get Angry. We get Hurt. We Cry. We feel sad. Beseech the Almighty for Guidance Always.
Stop trying to please everyone. It`s Impossible. No matter how you try to change, it`ll never be good enough for some. Just be who you are.
Be wary of Satan; always playing with your Emotions and makes you feel Sad and Worthless, like no one cares. But the Almighty Cares and Loves you.
When someone is prejudiced against you, they`ll go all out to Prove they`re Right. Don`t bother trying to change that. Just be yourself.
Avoid Disputes where possible. This can be tricky when you`re in an Argument. Satan whispers and your Ego sets in. But think of the Reward.
One of the Sad things about Social Media is it makes us compare our Lives with others. We don`t Appreciate our Blessings. We just want More.
Why Trust anyone with what`s going on in your life and fear being Judged? Confide in the Almighty, He knows you better than you do.
You may be Sad, Disappointed, Heartbroken or Even Scarred. But wake each day with a new sense of Hope, a will to fight on and not Give Up.
So We have Discussed About Self Esteem Further with more Important Points that will Help us make Us Believe and Make us Faith Strong and make us Learn about How to be Patient.
Lets Work on Ourselves and make our Life Better and Peaceful.
Thankyou for your Time.
Good day Readers, Today in Part- 2 of this Topic “Self-Esteem” we will discuss further few points and continue from where we left about “Self-Esteem ” / “Self-Worth“.
So, lets get Started,
From your work to actions and looks, people will always Criticize you and try to Tear you Down. Use their Negative Words to Spur you, Not Burn you.
Get your Priorities Right. People will Distract you but if you Listen to Every Criticism, You`ll Never Reach your Destination.
Whatever you do, There`ll be those who`ll Try to Steer you Away from your Course. As Long as you Know your Aim, Press on. He will Guide You.
Don`t Measure Life by What Society Dictates of you. The Care you`ve Given, the Love Shared, The Hearts you`ve Moved – They are Immeasurable.
Appreciate the Basic Things in Life. They Mean a Lot. We`ve been Given Much. We`ve been Spoilt. Yet we Complain. Start Thanking the Almighty Today.
Strive to be Like those who even After they`re Gone, their Good Character is Still much Alive. So Learn to be Humble, Sincere and Generous.
Don`t Expect Anything From Anyone but the Almighty. People will Hurt you and Let you Down. So Lower your Expectations; the Best way to be.
Don`t Stress over Trying to be Perfect. It`s all about taking our Imperfect Life and Making it Better. Start Today!
Beware Becoming a Slave to Materialism. You`ll Never have Enough. You Keep Wanting More and Can Easily be Controlled by those who are Wealthy.
Ask Almighty. Help us to be content in Leading a Quiet Life, Minding our Own Business and allowing You to take charge of things we can`t control.
We`re guilty of Focusing on what we want. It`s Never Enough. We take what we have for granted. Appreciate our Blessings.
There`s no Need to be Popular and win the approval of others. The Almighty did not create you for this Purpose. Stay True to yourself.
When you`ve finally found the True meaning of this Life and your Heart`s in the Right place, you`ll be happy keeping a Low Profile. Blessed.
We get Sad, even devastated when a loved one dies. We mourn the loss. But don`t forget that one day, others will be mourning our death.
You have your Life. I have Mine. Stop comparing it with others. We`re Tested in different ways. There`s a Blessing and Lesson in all of that.
When you do a deed for the Right Reason and your Heart`s in the Right Place, you`re Blessed; No matter your Looks, Colour, Identity or Status.
There`ll Always be Tough Days. Never begrudge others who seem to be having a smooth Ride. Know that we all face ups and downs. That`s Life.
Shyness is Part of Faith. Beware the one who does what he likes and feels no sense of shame. Cultivate Good Manners and you`ll acquire Shyness.
So, We have Discussed Further about “Self-Esteem” Today, This part plays a very Important Role in Building our Faith Strong.
In Next Part we will discuss further about “Self-Esteem” and hopefully You will know Why this Topic Plays a Very Important Role in all Our Lives.
SELF-WORTH | LIVE YOUR LIFE BUT ALSO HAVE SELF-WORTH | PART- 3 | ZEE GLOBAL VISION |
The Next Most Important of our Faith is “Loyalty“.
Treasure Loyal Friends. They`re the ones who`ve stayed with you at the darkest and lowest points of Life.
You`ll always be indebted to them.
You`ll never know who your friends are till you fall and hit Rock Bottom. Be the one who`ll Pick others up and offer Help in their Darkest Days.
No one said this life was Easy. At Times, it can be rather Rough. Cherish those who stood by you despite the odds. Forgive those who left.
When facing hardship, many will leave you. That`s Natural. But what hurts most is the silence and betrayal from those you thought were friends.
Remember in the End, it`s always between you and the Almighty. The truth is He`s the Only One who truly cares. Choose to confide in Him.
If you haven`t lived with someone, had dealings with them or traveled with them, then you cannot claim to know them well.
Value those who know your weakness but highlight your strength, know your Fears but keep your faith in check. Treasure such Positive Souls.
The Company you keep will have a great Impact on how you live your Life. Make sure you do it with Right People. Choose them Wisely.
Keep to your word, but don`t expect it from others. Be good to people but don`t expect the same treatment. Understand this and you won`t end up with unnecessary troubles.
Don`t worry about what your neighbour or best friend has. Your Blessings are Yours. He has your name on it. None can take it away from you.
The Trouble with us today is we`ve stopped feeling someone else`s Pain and Suffering. We`re obsessed with ourselves. Bring back compassion.
Be Wary of People who Stab you in the back Repeatedly and then behave like they`re the ones who have been wronged. It`s best to avoid Them.
When someone Trusts you and confides in you, Honour it. Don`t Betray it. Once Trust is Broken. It`ll be hard to Pickup the pieces
Honest sincere people are the ones who don`t pretend to be Perfect. They won`t Judge or Backstab. They`re not so common but they exist. They`re Real Friends.
Beware those who embarrass or Speak unkindly of Family and Friends behind their backs but pretend to be the nicest people in their Presence.
So Value Loyal People. Be Loyal to others to make yourself Strong in your Faith. Just have faith No matter what others do to you Be Loyal to yourself and have Self – Worth.
In Next Topic, we will discuss about “Self – Worth “.
