Relationships are hard work. At first, things may seem easy when you’re in the cupcake phase. Love, romance, and a genuine connection seem to flow like water in the beginning, but over time, these things may dwindle to the occasional show of affection. Unhappy couples result from not being mindful of the effort it takes to maintain affection for the long haul.
The easy solution to an unhappy or toxic relationship is to leave it, but many people don’t. This situation is because deep down, they either want to save the relationship or they don’t want to be alone. In many cases, a human’s innate need for companionship is what keeps them in a bad partnership.
Whether you’re reading this to figure out if someone in your life is in an unhealthy relationship or if you’re reading this for yourself, these ten therapist-curated signs can help you identify unhappy couples.
Unhappy couples have passive aggression down to a science. They don’t want to get into a full-out argument, but they want to make a point. They want their significant other to feel that point. In many cases, an annoyed partner may not even be aware of passive aggression.
Passive aggression comes in certain degrees or levels. It can be mild, in which case it’s easy to miss (for a while). However, if it’s a substantial degree, it can lead to full-out arguments anyway, causing even more unhappiness. Things become worse as the passive-aggressive behavior continues without a resolution. It’s common to see discontent couples be aggressive about passive-aggressive behavior.
Remember when it seemed like you were sharing something new all the time with your partner? The thrill of a shared, unique experience kept the relationship alive and exciting. You were probably in love and loving it. The spontaneity of it kept you excited because you never knew what was around the corner.
Unhappy couples can find that those new experiences aren’t happening anymore. One big reason is that they probably aren’t spending as much time together. Some of it is just that the magic hides underneath resentment or depression. Either way, a lack of new experiences is one of the signs of unhappiness.
Daydreaming about the way a partner used to be is a tell-tale sign that someone is unhappy in their current relationship. This wishful thinking means that there is nothing new to dwell on. The connection is stagnant, or worse. The significant other has changed
It’s not uncommon for both partners to reminisce about the way the other person used to be. When one partner changes, the other partner can often mirror the behaviors. They can be unaware that they’ve changed also. It’s worse when the couple decides not to talk about what they’re missing. This miscommunication leads to two miserable people who may have trouble admitting they’re no longer happy.
Unhappy couples may find that their relationship is no longer exciting. Fun dates, secret rendezvous, spontaneous trips, passionate sex, or even unique gifts have been replaced by work, kids, chores, or other boring life activities. Even worse, it may have been replaced by drugs or alcohol.
For couples with a troubled relationship, it can be hard to bring excitement into a relationship they aren’t excited about. The spark just isn’t there anymore. Doing things that once were exciting can now feel like a chore. It’s hard to get back to a relationship that keeps you on your toes once you hit this point, but it’s not impossible. Both parties must be willing to put aside their differences and try.
Going on dates is an essential part of any relationship. It’s a way for couples to connect, build a friendship, and keep the fire burning in a relationship. The date doesn’t have to be some grand event. As long as it involves the couple spending quality time alone with each other, it’s a perfect bonding experience.
When couples aren’t going on dates anymore, you can be sure that one or both parties are unhappy. Dianne Grande, a licensed clinical psychologist, wrote, “when there is strong resistance to planning couples time, I begin to wonder whether both partners are avoiding time alone together. If this is a long-standing pattern, it is worth thinking about whether one or both of you have a fear of emotional intimacy and deal with that fear by always including other friends or family in your free time.”
If date night has disappeared from the relationship, that’s a definite sign that something is wrong and not dealing with that can zap the happiness away fast.
One of the most prominent signs of unhappiness is constant disagreements or arguments. It can be about something as significant as being accused of cheating or something as minor as whose turn it is to do the dishes. When someone is in an unhappy relationship, everything has the potential to get on their nerves.
Many disagreements happen because unhappy couples don’t talk about things like they need to. This discontent could be the source of unhappiness – a lack of communication. When communication breaks down, neither party is expressing what they want or need from the relationship. This outcome can lead to resentment, anger, and disappointment, all of which contribute to unhappiness.
People don’t need to know their partner’s schedule minute for minute, but they should have some general idea of where their partner is during the day. This is because happy couples take an interest in each other’s lives. In fact, happy couples probably text each other about exciting things during their days, which allows them to know where their significant other is.
Then you have the couples who seem to have no clue of their significant other’s whereabouts. Even stranger, they seem to not really care. They might also change the subject away from their significant other. This is a glaring indicator of an unhappy couple.
Sometimes couples can get so used to each other that they feel like they don’t need to work hard to keep each other. That means little things like gentle whispers in the ear, playful touching, and flirting don’t happen anymore. On its own, this could just be a sign of a relationship that needs a refresher but paired with other symptoms. You can bet that the couple is unhappy.
This is especially true if they don’t touch each other at all. The absence of hugs and kisses says a lot. They may even go out of their way to avoid each touching each other. This is a sign of severe relationship problems.
Healthy, happy couples talk about any and everything. They love talking to each other because they’re friends as well as lovers. Conversations can often get intense and intellectual when couples mesh well. It’s almost as if they’re on the same wavelength.
This is why it would be strange if they don’t have meaningful conversations. One-liners and one-word answers indicate tension between the two. There may even be a lack of eye contact when they talk to each other. This means that there are things that need to be said but are being held in. These suppressed feelings and expressions can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
Have you ever tried to talk to someone who is always on their phone? You quickly get the feeling that they aren’t really paying you any attention, mainly because they won’t even look at you. In most cases, that’s what’s happening, exactly.
Couples who are always on their phones when around each other are merely not paying each other any attention. This could be because they’ve lost interest in each other or, as mentioned in the previous reason, they’re avoiding each other. Either way, paying more attention to social media than a significant other is a clear sign of unhappy couples.
No matter how much they may try to hide it, unhappy couples are apparent. Everything can be a giveaway, including their words, actions, and even their glances. Interestingly, couples who are unhappy will stick together and not try to fix what’s making them depressed. Sometimes, they may not also be aware of how miserable they are.
Some couples grow so accustomed to living the way they do that they don’t even recognize the signs no matter how obvious they are. Whether you’re reading this article for a friend or you’re reading it to try and discover if you’re in an unhappy relationship, these ten signs will clue you in on what’s happening.
Welcome to Part -2 of the Topic “Kindness “. We will Continue discussing about Being Kind and Being Humans.
It is by giving that kindness He makes the receiving so much Sweeter. May He continue to enrich our lives so we can make a difference to others.
Spread Goodness at the slightest opportunity. We never know what`s kept hidden as a Reward for what we`ve done. Leave it to the Almighty.
Some don`t think twice before criticizing others. They`re intolerant and want to Tear people down. Be Kind. Lift others Up. Help them Heal.
If you want to help people get closer to the Almighty, use proper etiquette and good manners. Don`t do it in an arrogant way. Humility always.
If your Kindness is not being appreciated, don`t feel disappointed. Continue your good acts. Spread it far and wide. It`ll come back to you.
One of the worst things someone can do is to treat others unfairly because of their skin colour or Looks. Racism is Ugly. Racism is Wrong.
Nevermind if what you give is small. It`s not the amount but the helping attitude that counts. The Almighty never forgets the good you do.
As you put that morsel of food into your mouth today, think of those starving and surviving on meagre rations of the World over. Pray for Ease.
The world is crying out for compassion and kindness. Strive to spread more Love and goodness not Hate. Learn to see the Truth amid all the Lies.
Stop arguing and trying to prove who`s Right and Wrong. The world is Hard enough as it is. Learn to Embrace Good, Spread Kindness and Positivity.
Life`s a constant Struggle. Always try to do better. When others make mistakes, don`t look down on them. Help them up with your Wisdom.
Blessed is he who is able to put the needs of others first even though he`s going through his own struggles and trying to weather his storm.
So no matter what`s the situation you are going through Learn to be Kind it might not make everyone Be Kind to you it`s a Test and a Trial from the Almighty. Don`t Let Hatered Change you, Just as we said
Today we will discuss the most Important Part of our Lives “Love “. Many People Take Marriage and Love as a Joke and make it look like some kind of factious Happy Movie.
Infact in Reality its opposite and Many People Emotionally & Mentally Abuse their Children’s to get in marriage relationship which they are not Ready for and later in their Lives they face things that we will Discuss in this Topic.
So Firstly, Don`t be in a Rush Because the Almighty`s plan is always perfect. There`s a lesson every step of the way. Know that He`s testing our Faith!
The type of person you Marry plays a Big Role in the Type of Children you`ll have. So do your unborn child a favors by choosing Wisely.
If people can use “lol” without even laughing, surely they can use ” I Love You “without even Loving. So don`t be Fooled.
We don`t appreciate our families enough. We tend to favor friends over family. Don`t forget the sacrifices they`ve made for you selflessly.
Whenever you feel the journey`s too Hard, Remember the Almighty`s makes things happen for a Reason. Every Trial has a Purpose. That should comfort us!
When you feel heartbroken and disappointed because things don`t seem to make sense, put your hands up and talk to the Almighty. You don`t need words if the hurt is too much. Speak silently from your heart.
Don`t be misled into thinking that marriage is what you see on social media. It`s not. It`s Hardwork, give and take, Patience and sacrifice.
We don`t know what the future holds. We tend to worry. But why worry if we have the Almighty with us? That`s the beauty of Trusting Him.
We love ourselves after so many mistakes, so why do we hate others for one or two mistakes they`ve made?
Don`t shy away from telling your family that you love them. Kind words can go a Long way towards forming strong, Healthy relationships.
Pray for others. Don`t be selfish and just pray for yourself. Want for others what you want for yourself. Feel your heart grow with love.
Everything happens for a Reason; even those that make us sad for there are lessons in every situation. Learn from them and be grateful to the Almighty.
Never let others feel Worthless. Don`t push people aside or Ignore them thinking you`re more superior. Always remind them of their worth.
Nothin means more than someone with a heart full of love, an ever ready listening ear and a hand that`s willing to help others at anytime.
When you`re able to genuinely wish someone well, have no jealousy in your heart towards him and want the best for him, you`re truly blessed.
If your Love for this world is so deep-rooted, remember you can`t take it with you. It`s wiser to start preparing for the next life now.
Everyone has a part in someone`s life. We may never know where we fit in or our Actual Role, but without us, Their Lives won`t be complete.
Your Maker picked you up each time you fell, gave you strength to carry on when you felt the world caving in on you. Where would you be without Him?
When you do things to please people, someone will always be complaining. Nothing`s ever good enough. Choose to please the Almighty instead.
You may not be able to afford much but remember that empty hands and empty pockets are nothing compared to an empty heart, without love for the Almighty.
It`s a disease affecting many. Hypocrisy. Doing Good for the world to see, showing off. Get to the root of the problem. Cleanse the Heart.
Be kind to yourself. No need to beat yourself up for the mistakes you`ve made. They`re a Blessing. They`ve made you what you are Today.
When you finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, smile and thank the Almighty. He was actually looking after you when you thought He had left you.
Be kind to your siblings and develop the best relationship with them. The Almighty has chosen them for a Reason. Value them lest you Regret.
Remember that some of the closest people in your Life aren`t always the one`s who love you most. You can`t change them. Accept it and move on.
It`s Painful to see your Loved ones go down the Wrong Path. Do your Best and advise them Kindly. Pray that the Almighty turns their Hearts Around.
So, as you can see Everything in Life plays part in building our Faith and Patience . Next Topic we will discuss will be “Kindness“
Good Day Readers, Today we will discuss the Next Part of our Topic “Sincerity “. Like in previous Part we have discussed that we need to be sincere to our selves and not be selfish and thank Almighty in every Possible way what He has bestowed favor’s on us.
So now we will continue with it about this topic further.
Just because you have “everything” doesn`t mean hardship won`t befall you. Spare a thought for those with family, health and job struggles
We often say, “I’m blessed”, when we have material things. But if we were to count Real Blessings from the Almighty, we`d fail miserably.
Don`t be a Hypocrite. Some People speak Good of their friends in front of them but shame, backbite and gossip about them behind their backs.
When giving advice, do so kindly. Do it Sincerely with Patience. Don`t do it to show that you are more intelligent or better than others.
When you give to those in need, don`t brag or talk about it. Help from the heart without treating them like beggars. That`s Human Dignity.
It`s easy to Criticize, condemn and complain. Many Love doing this. But it takes a Good Soul to Build others up, show Kindness and Compassion
It`s Good Practice to help others and do favor’s for them. But never remind people of what you`ve done for them. That will incur His Wrath.
The Almighty has the answers to all our Problems but not everyone bothers to Ask. Do it Sincerely and with firm Belief. He hears and Responds.
Being misery and being generous are not tied to your wealth. It has everything to do with your Heart. How much you feel for others
Be conscious of your intent. Keep it Sincere. Don`t do things just to Please People. May He Protect and Guide us in our Dealings with others
You don`t need to Defend or Explain your decisions to anyone. You know what your intent is. Keep it Pure. The Almighty knows. That`s Enough.
No matter where Life Leads you, Treat those who`ve crossed your path nicely. The Almighty has placed them there for a Reason. He Knows.
Don`t Worry. Even when don`t Remember your Kindness, the Almighty does. He knows it all, when done Sincerely. Keep doing it for Him.
The sad truth is you can give people the best you have and it won`t be enough. That`s Okay. Do your Best anyway. Do it to Please your Creator.
When Someone Does well and Succeeds, Be happy for Him. Don`t Try to Bring him Down. When you`re able to do that, it shows a Pure Heart.
The ones with Fake Smiles Exist. they Smile to your Face and when you Leave, they start Backbiting and criticizing you.
So Keeping in Mind all the Facts that we have Discussed Make sure to Work on yourself and make yourself better first.
In the Next Topic We Will Discuss About “Love” . And Love plays a Vital Role as well in Building our Faith Strong with Patience.