GRADUAL EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWN

This Form of psychological Manipulation and Abuse adheres to a principal of kicking the target while she`s down. Over time, the target is told over and over again that she is not good enough in some way. Once the manipulator figures out what is most painful to the victim, he may use this as his weapon in this regard.

For Example, if the target feels self-conscious about her physical appearance, this becomes the abuser`s subject of torture, and he will use the weapon often, especially if he sees it effectively breaking down the mental strength and composure of the victim.

Doing this offers an unchallenged level of control and influence over the victim, and, once there, the abuser will continue to exercise the tactic in order to keep her in that low place. This kind of emotional abuse is often accompanied by physical abuse, as well. The Target who has been worn down through emotional abuse will also be unable to defend herself effectively, as the will to live itself is broken down alongside any sense of self-confidence or Identity.

The Reward for this type of abuse works differently for the abuser in a lot of these cases. He is not usually trying to gain something from the victim but is rather releasing the frustration, anger, or depression that he feels himself and is unable to deal with. He passes along this pain in order to alleviate himself of some of the stress and pressure in some way often functioning in complete denial of his actions as a way to live with himself as he continues this behavior.

Most of the time, there is no winner in these unfortunate circumstances. Both parties are spiraling downward. The Longer this behavior continues, the more obscure the way out becomes. Other Factors complicate this situation, such as Kids and Financial Status.

Women may feel trapped with in an abusive Relationship because they depend on the partner for Financial Support or other kinds of Support. There might also be the Threat of Physical Harm to the children should the Victim take any action toward getting out of the situation, to get either her children or herself away.

At this point, the abuser is driven by the simple and basic drive to possess and control without any concern as to what he is actually Gaining out of the situation. This Feeling will often persist in situations where the Abuser has lost control in all aspects of his Life or in situations where he was bought up in a similar environment and understands no alternative way to live and operate in relation to other people. 

In Next Part of this Topic We will Discuss:

“ATTACHMENT AND THE FEAR OF LOSS “