So Readers We will continue the story where we had left in our Last Part.
Well what happened Next is then, I arrived home Late Friday Night and got up and early. The wife and I were going to see this home that she thought she might have bought.
However, it was I, the alleged Technical Titular Leader of the household, who was personally going to the scene to make the command decisions. We both moved out smartly into the “Command Car,” Technical Titular Leader at the wheel, my associate beside me.
We drove along, and I said to my wife, “By the way, does anybody know about this house you almost bought?“
“Oh Yes,” she said.
“Who could possibly know? It just happened!“
“Many People,” she responded.
“Who?” I Persisted.
“Well, all our neighbors and friends know, for starters. In fact, they are throwing us a Gala Farewell party Tonight.“
My Jaw muscles tightened. “: What do you mean for starters? Who Else could Know?“
“Well, our families know — your family and my family. In fact, my mother has already ordered custom-made drapes for the living room. I called in the measurements to her.“
While my stomach knotted I wheeled around a corner.
“Who else knows?“
“Well, the children know. They told their friends, they told their teachers; they selected the bedrooms they want. Sharon and Steven have even ordered furniture for their new rooms from a department store.“
“What about our Dog?” I asked, trying to prevent a vein on my forehead from throbbing.
“Oh, Fluffy’s been there, sniffing around as only Fluffy can. She likes the neighborhood’s Fire Hydrants, and a cute Male Dog down the Block caught her Eye.“
What was happening here? The organization was moving away from the Leader, that’s what! It was the Zig Zag Theory of Organizational Behavior.
As you know, all Organizations start down the Road, Shoulder-to-Shoulder.
Everyone’s in Lock Step — Everyone’s Together. When suddenly, without warming, the Troops all abruptly zig and then zag.
When that happens, the Leader is left stranded in Left Field, Muttering, “What happened? Where’d they all go? Where is everyone?” This Phenomenon is known as Loneliness — without a cigarette.
In my case, the Alleged Technical Titular Leader was now Lonely in the Zig, with his organization having zagged away. What do you think the Alleged Technical Titular — Now Lonely — Leader did under these circumstances?
You’re so Right. He ratified a decision that was already made, to keep the Title of Alleged Technical Titular Leader.
It Often seems that my wife knows more about Negotiations than I do. She understands that when the body moves, the head is inclined to follow.
What my spouse did was obtain commitment to her decision from the people who are important to me. She put into Practice the Old saying that “It is often easier to ask forgiveness than permission.“
She presented me with a Fait Accompli, an accomplished fact. To sustain the appearance — even the self-concept — of Leadership, I followed in front. In putting my signature on the agreement, I merely ratified a decision that was already made by my wife, our children, our families, our friends and neighbors, and of course our dog, Fluffy.
Never see anyone as an Isolated Unit. See those whom you wish to Persuade in Context, as a Central Core around which others Move. get the Support of those others and you will influence the position and movement of the core.
Well, Dear Readers Now we are Moving to Our Next Point:
“ Dealing with Opposition “
Do not Forget to Follow my Website for Future Updates.
One thought on “More on the Win-Win Technique | Gaining Commitment (Part 2)”